Unrequited love or simping?: “I was in the hospital for two weeks and Prisca never came once” 

“Sometimes, I look back at the stupid things I’ve done because of love, and I just shake my head. My love was once foolish, never again sha. When people say they’ve done really crazy things for love, I don’t laugh at them or hurl insults because I can relate.”

When Seye met Prisca, he was certain that they were a match made in heaven, and he was ready to go to any length to make that a reality. How did it turn out? In a lovely bed of roses or trenches? 

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How did you guys meet?

I met Prisca for the first time in my third year in school at a mall. We didn’t talk because I didn’t walk up to her. I just saw her, that was all. I was 24 then, and I even had a girlfriend sef, but I was so attracted to her and I was so sure that we’d date that I broke up with my then girlfriend. 

This was even before we became friends or I even asked her out. I was already tired of the relationship at that time. 

Crazy, right? Yeah. I can be crazy sometimes.

How then did you go from strangers to lovers for four years?

I saw her for the second time at my school. I attended Lagos State University. She was a direct entry student in her second year, so I wasn’t surprised that I had never seen her in the school before then. 

When I saw her again, I introduced myself, of course. We started talking, I got her number, and promised to call her. As I promised, I called her. We went on a few dates before I popped the question and asked her to be my girlfriend.

Would you like to describe how the relationship was?

We started dating and I was the happiest man I knew, or so I thought because there were a lot of red flags I ignored. 

At the beginning of our relationship, I noticed I was the one putting in all the effort. I was the one calling; even if she missed my calls, she wouldn’t bother to return them until I called again. 

I was always the one making plans for dates and spending quality time together. I thought it would all change when we became official. I was wrong.

It was a toxic, one-sided relationship that drained me. But it took me a long period of time to acknowledge that. Why did I say that? 

There were a series of events that should have made me know that Prisca didn’t love me, but I loved her, and for me, that was all that mattered.

Series? Wow!

Yeah, I said series because there were a lot. I remember there was a  time when I was really sick and I was in the hospital for two weeks. Prisca never came once. 

She was in town so she must have heard about it but she still didn’t show up. It hurt like hell. Prisca never bothered to reciprocate my kind gestures toward her. She never cared to learn my love languages. 

While we were together, she never got me a gift, not even the littlest thing. Geez! How did I even cope with that? 

Can’t be me!

Are you serious right now?

Yes, I am. We were together for four years and not even a single gift. She always had an excuse. And here I was, going out of my way to please her. 

No, I couldn’t say I was funding her entire life, but I could boldly say I did a lot, and that was because I loved her. It was that simple for me.

I loved her, so I had to show it, even when I knew she didn’t love me right back.

Why did you still continue with the relationship when you knew she didn’t love you?

I knew the relationship was going to end at some point because it was not healthy. It wasn’t easy for me to break up but one day I found the courage to. It was really a dark phase in my life.

She ruined me!

I couldn’t figure out why she didn’t love me. I couldn’t wrap my head around it. But I just had to accept it. Even though I’m not open to a relationship at the moment, I’ll still be open to love and its perks whenever I’m ready. 

I wouldn’t want to be the problem in my next relationship. I don’t want to be a partner like Prisca, so I’m taking my time to heal completely, or almost.

I am really so sorry. Why did you think Prisca acted like that?

Thank you. But sincerely, I don’t know. I think she tried to like me back, maybe she just couldn’t. I also felt she could have ended the whole thing if she knew she would never be able to reciprocate the feelings. 

Some other times, I think she just used me. 

She was probably enjoying the princess treatment too much. I really don’t know, to be honest, and I’ve stopped trying to figure it out.

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