I’m sexually attracted to men who are intelligent
Oluwalonimi
People say “ignorance is a disease”. No doubt, because personally, I cannot be attracted to an unintelligent handsome guy. In this “sexually intelligent” interview, Oluwalonimi (name withheld) exclusively gave the full gist of how she gets sexually attracted to intelligent men.
Let’s meet you
I’m Oluwalonimi (withheld). I’m a lady in her late 20’s and I’m sapiosexual.
You’re sapiosexual? What do you mean?
Well, I mean, I get sexually attracted to intelligent men.
Does that mean when you see an intelligent man, you get sexually aroused?
Yes, when I meet an intelligent man, I get sexually aroused and all I want to do is have sex with him right now, right there.
Do you have a boyfriend?
Yes, I have a boyfriend. Though it is an open relationship.
Open relationship? Please explain further.
Despite the fact that we are dating, we can have sexual relations with others.
Wow! Doesn’t he get jealous? Or don’t you get jealous too?
Jealous kee!! We don’t do that in our relationship. There are boundaries. And I’m sapiosexual. I might meet men that are more intelligent than him.
Being sapiosexual, is it an innate trait or an acquired trait?
Truthfully, I can’t say what it is. But sometimes, I think it is an innate trait that I later developed to be a part of me. I wasn’t like this while growing up.
When did you discover you were sapiosexual?
I discovered this at the age of 20. I went to a youth conference, and Debo was the speaker. His charismatic gait, his smell, and the way he smartly picked his sentences during the conference was soul-taking.
So, what happened between you and Debo that day?
Nothing happened that day. But we got connected. We became friends, and the rest as they say is history.
How is life being sapiosexual?
Hmm! I won’t lie, it is kind of challenging. Because I get to meet intelligent men every day, especially with my line of work as a medical scientist. I can’t keep having sex with all the intelligent men I meet. So, we decided to stay committed to each other and ended the open relationship. Sometimes, I do think it is covetousness. I had to work on myself full time and be content with my intelligent man.
How did you work on yourself?
People make it look like being sapiosexual is bad. It is not. It just depends on your commitment level, your level of exposure, and what you want for your life. Working on myself, my boyfriend was supportive. I also worked on my I.Q, and invest my time in books and personal development courses.
It must have been an emotional rollercoaster for you.
Yes, it was. No lies, but I had to come out strong from it.
“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.”
Winston Churchill
Being sapiosexual is something I had loved to explore. I think you should explore it too. Oluwalonimi made it look easy and sweet. Just imagine your man dropping intelligent lines in a PTA meeting. Arrrghh!!! the feelings will be sweet.
